I'm a mom... but I can still be spontaneous!

After enduring a few years of, in many ways (except financial, phew!) a life of single motherhood, as Bill traveled back and forth from his Puerto Rican baby (the hotel he was building) - we decided to pick up our family and move there for the duration of the project. The decision came on Saturday - and we were to leave a week later. This blog tracked our experiences as we left our home in CT, withdrew our kids from school, left our puppy in the care of a trusted dog-lover, left the snow and the rat race and the routine... for a beautiful, rather remote island. I hoped to allow my friends & family to track our progress (or lack thereof?) as we lugged our stuff to one of the few remaining places that does not have a Starbucks, the kids and I embarked on our first ever homeschooling experience (I'd always thought homeschoolers were aliens), and I happily moved my triathlon training from the pool, trainer & dreadmill to what basically amounts to paradise. Most of all, I hoped my blogging will push others to step out of their comfort zone and try something they always swore "NEVER!" to do. (Of course, hopefully it's not something destructive).

So now, we are back in CT after our 3 surreal months in Vieques. In no time whatsoever my day became jam-packed with activities and tasks, but somehow it feels "right" in the way that the nothingness of Vieques felt "right." I suppose that's how you know you're following your bliss - and where you do it becomes irrelevant.

Thanks for visiting!

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

from heaven to bliss and back again





check out the iguana on the edge of our pool


W pool


with her new Russian friends

living it up: lunch in the cabana


Tomorrow marks one week from the hotel's opening day, and they'll already be sold out. Semana Santa, or Easter week, is the biggest holiday in Puerto Rico, certainly in Vieques. Nobody works on Good Friday, not even the airline that operates between Vieques and the Big Island. At Monday's Girls Night Out I heard that this week is pandemonium in Vieques as people flock over here, pitch up camp (literally), and make a run on beer and other necessities (I went to the store this morning and stocked up). Gas stations already have lines round the block, and a lot of the island has had intermittent water stoppages as (word has it) the Water Gods are hoarding it for the influx of visitors. Suddenly remembering the whole Easter thing, I looked for marshmallows, chocolate chips & rainbow sprinkles at the store, as I wanted to try out an Easter egg rice crispies treat recipe I'd seen on my friend Melanie's Facebook page, but alas, no marshmallows or sprinkles to be found. I did pounce on some semi-sweet chocolate chips though so I may finally get my 2 month dark chocolate craving satisfied, to some extent.

Okay, so as a few of you know, we stayed at the W for 2 nights, and I will now give you my completely biased review. IT WAS PHENOMENAL. We had connecting rooms right on the pool, one with a king size bed, the other with 2 doubles. Not a suite, just regular rooms. Gosh, the luxury of it all! The W beds really are just outstanding. The bathroom also passed my high standards. Usually I berate Bill for focusing so much on design and aesthetic that practicality flies out the window, and this is always most obvious in the bathroom. For example, most hip hotels and the like have zero counter space in the bathroom, and although I'm a Low Maintenance Girl my toiletries usually have to sit on the floor, which is horrifying. But not here. Plenty of counter space and even a below-the-sink cabinet. So go ahead and bring all your MAC beauty products and straightening irons and the like. The bedside alarm clock has a dock for your iPhone or iPod, so I didn't need the charger I'd brought, and we could listen to my music. Though honestly, because the W standard places a huge emphasis on music in all the public areas, it was kind of nice to retreat to a music-free place (never thought I'd say that, music fanatic that I am!). The bedside radio doesn't have a "noisemaker" which was a bit disappointing, and there was no coffee maker (I don't know if that's in the plan?). The shower is huge, as is the walk-in closet, and there are plenty of outlets for people who simply cannot unplug even in paradise (yes, I'm admittedly one of them). Wireless internet, flat screen TV with DVD/CD player.

The pool is, as I think I've said before, just beautiful. On the second day I knew to go grab a cabana early, for the sake of my quality review, of course. The cabanas will be rented for a daily fee starting this weekend, but while we were there they were free. They have a flat screen TV (which if you know me, was certainly never used), and you're lying on this big bed. As I spread out there with my Sunday New York Times and a couple of magazines, while the kids played in the pool just feet away from me, I felt completely peaceful, pampered, & a tad guilty as I tend to do when I think of our good fortune. I met several people who are here for several days from DC, Chicago, NY, San Juan, Russia. I wondered if any of them were going to rent a car and explore Vieques, but I could understand if they chose not to do so. While the beaches on the other side of Vieques, the Caribbean side, are indisputably more breath-taking than the W beaches, the ease and comfort of staying in this beautiful, idyllic slice of heaven, with Pablo's Passion (bartender Pablo's genius margarita concoction of ginger & passion fruit, which is up to now unnamed but a Facebook friend suggested this name and that's what I'm calling it for now) available in minutes, thanks to the great poolside service, our room bathroom just steps away, a large pitcher of iced water with slices of lime & orange (FREE!) at the corner of the pool... Well, I'd completely understand if people would hesitate to rent a car, figure out where they're going, find out that there are no bathrooms or snack stands at the Wild Refuge beaches, be nervous about their valuables when they go swimming... I love the fact that this W is somewhere that easily pleases you whether you're looking for an insulated retreat or an adventurous cultural & eco experience, or a combination of both. Even the decor, in the rooms as well as the public spaces, reflects this diversity of experience. Patricia Urquiola's talent is not just in the beauty she creates, with the vibrant color schemes and brilliant ways of using mixed media that results in an aesthetically-pleasing AND comfortable lounging area, for example. But she also weaves local and hip elements together to create something very unique and, I think, that unites different cultures and generations. In other words, my 69-year-old Republican dad loves the results as much as a 35-year-old homosexual restaurant owner does, but for different reasons. If that makes any sense (hey, it's not like I write for Vogue or anything).

I tried out the gym. It's free to guests, part of their resort fee. The equipment is top notch (Technodyne). There are 4 treadmills, 3 excites & 2 waves (these are sort of like ellipticals, I gather), 3 stationary bikes. There's a bunch of weight lifting machines, dumbbells, exercise balls, jump ropes, yoga mats, a punching bag. Out back there's a sun deck and that's where I've been conducting the 8am yoga class. Except for the one I did by the pool on Monday afternoon, which was really a great place for it as we were between the pool and the ocean - beautiful! Of course, if you're embarrassed about your lack of flexibility (which I should be) then poolside is not the place to practice, as I think we created quite a spectacle. The Russians didn't seem to mind though, and we had quite a few laughs when they came to yoga the next morning (at the gym) in bikinis, and the landscapers who were working in the yard beside us all but stopped work to gawk at them. I'm hoping that delayed our return to CT by at least a day.

While we stayed at the W, our friend Gillian was kind enough to care for the 2 remaining puppies (Honey & Negrita) at her house. It hit me the first morning I woke up without having to deal with runaway puppies (remember, we don't have a fenced in yard) how much work it really has been for me. When we returned to our house yesterday, I took them to the Humane Society (because that's where the island's vet is) to get their 2nd round of shots and to have Honey checked out, since Gillian pointed out she'd been dragging her butt on the ground and she suspected the poor thing had inflated anal glands (lovely) which would need expressing (no thanks). So I dragged the kids there, because my yoga class (I didn't expect to teach, but as soon as I returned from my run, I was summoned to the gym) had meant the kids would be terribly late to school so I decided to just homeschool again. We had to wait a long time, as they were doing me a favor and squeezing me in, since the next available appointment wasn't until April 8th. During that wait time, Jackie began to feel ill. By the time it was our turn, we walked into the consultation room and I put one puppy on the table and Jackie whimpered "I don't feel well." Within 30 seconds I'd handed both puppies to the unperturbed vet and Jackie was leaning over a toilet. When we returned, the vet was finishing up with his gland expression, both pups were vaccinated, and I had somehow never lost that blissful feeling of tranquility I felt while basking in the W glory. Must be all that yoga. And pampering... Lynn, a volunteer there, and I got to talking (well, I was telling her, that is) about how the Vieques Humane Society needs to let future visitors know, before their visit here, how they can help, simply by bringing an animal back with them. I explained that many people when seeing my puppies offer to take one home to the US, but unfortunately are unable to because of the 10 day law. I suggested we put one of my photos of the puppies on a Vieques Travel website, with the text "help me" or something like that, and a link to the VHS's info on how you can adopt one or be a puppy mule. She loved it so I emailed Enchanted Isle, one of the top sources of travel info to Vieques, and Jim, the owner, agreed to help me. So make sure you visit his site!!!!

Everyone's asking us when we're coming home, and the answer is still "Not sure, probably 2-3 weeks." It's a weird thing for me to contemplate because quite honestly, this feels like home to me. I've made many friends, as have the kids, I've figured out several areas in which I could be a pain in the ass I mean catalyst to change, and I've embraced the Viequense way of floating around in 2nd gear (tops), dressed only in a bikini, cover-up & flip flops. The thought of all the competitiveness back home - as subtle as it may be, since it's not like we live in Greenwich or Manhattan, thankfully - is a tad daunting and upsets my chi to some extent. You either think of Vieques as just another Caribbean island, with its very rich people and a much larger majority of poor people, 3rd world infrastructure, and 3rd world mentality that says "this is good enough for me, why should I bother to try?". Or you see it the way that I and others who love Vieques see it, as a place that is not only beautiful, but also because of the lack of infrastructure forces you to slow down, simplify, and be content with less in terms of materialism but much richer in terms of your relationships to others, to nature, to yourself. I wouldn't say that I'm anxious about reassimilating into the Northeast rat race, partly because I don't think I was ever part of it (eg I eschew soccermania & all other kid-centric endeavors that would cut into My Time or Our Time) and partly because I have some really great friends and projects waiting for me back home. I hope that the way of life here is one I can sort of replicate back home to some extent, without becoming an eccentric, bohemian recluse.

"An unhurried sense of time is in itself a form of wealth"

-Bonnie Friedman


Sunday, March 28, 2010

The hotel opens!!!!!

Honey needs a home still!!

Jandad







breaking into Vieques publications :)


showing off the property to Gov. Fortuño


making the "W" sign

part of Bill's tireless team, all spiffed-up
Secretary of Tourism, Viequense Mayor, PR Governor






post-press conference buffet


ah, the lobby floor is nice and cool

view from atop el Fortín



showing the rooms off to Jandad


brief rest before opening tomorrow!







gringo beach









W beach

W fire pit

Red Beach


these guys love nibbling our toes


our next-door neighbors for the week, from CO. DELIGHTFUL family. We'll miss them :(









Opening Day celebration at Red Beach!





Me & Victor (former Olympic swimmer, representing PR)








W ROCKS!!


In the past week, we've had so many adventures & events that rather than go into an endless babble and take time away from creating new adventures on this gorgeous, puppy-free Sunday (my friend Gillian has graciously agreed to watch the 2 remaining angels for 2 days), I will merely list this week's occurrences and allow the photos to fill in the blanks.

Sunday - Jandad (the term I coined for my dad & stepmom, AKA Grandad & Janet - I grew tired of constantly saying Grandad and Janet, since they do tend to come as a package deal so it's rare one will merely utter "Grandad" or "Daddy" or "John" without also including "Janet") arrived.

Monday - kids went to Oasis "school" and I played tour guide to Jandad (WWII bunkers, ginormous Ceiba, rebellious chapel, lunch, quick dinner at Duffy's, 6:30pm Bio Bay tour to see the best display in the world of dinoflagellates, these tiny organisms that leave a glowing wake when you splash around at night - we did the kayak trip, and watching Grandad scramble back into his kayak without sending Janet & Willo into the water was a spectacle in itself)

Tuesday - kids went to Oasis and I took Jandad to the Fortín to see the Taíno relics, Spanish torture paraphernalia and local art exhibits

Wednesday - 1 day before hotel opening!!!!! Jandad had a brief glimpse of Bill, who had been all but MIA since their arrival on Sunday, as the finishing touches were put on the hotel.

Thursday - HOTEL OPENING!!!!!!! We treat Jandad to breakfast at the hotel, as paying guests now, and without planning to end up attending the opening ceremony, with the Governor (Fortuño) and Viequense mayor (Delerme, one of the few female mayors in PR). Breakfast was delicious and Tessa was our server (she's excellent and I don't just say that cause she's my friend). Fortunately I'd combed Jackie's hair that day, first time in over a week, and I'd thrown on something nicer than a bikini & cover-up, because as I pulled the kids aside and out of the way of the parade (governor, mayor, GM, owner's reps, chief designer - the ubiquitous Patricia Urquiola - and all the paparazzi) - the governor spotted us and came over and on TV asked me and the kids where we were from and what did we think of the hotel? Later, during the press conference, Willo had gone missing for a bit but since our kids are now officially hotel brats and we allow them to roam freely, we weren't too concerned. Until we spotted him behind the official backdrop, peeking round it, just behind the governor (the dignitaries & co were sitting just below, in the lower part of the restaurant). Bill madly signaled for Willo to scat and then we suppressed our giggles ("what if he'd knocked the screen down onto the governor??"). A bit later someone from marketing or something came up to me to tell me my son is adorable, and wasn't it funny when he was making bunny ears over the governor's head?

Since the hotel was opened and the construction/design people could finally take a breath, we all went to Red Beach and shared champagne and basked in what to many of them was the first chance to get to this gorgeous beach, in spite of having been on this project for a couple of years. At least for a few hours, there was relief in that now it's up to the operations people to keep things smooth and successful.

Jandad offered to babysit and we went out to dinner at Conuco (my first time there) and had a delicious meal. It was also fun because when we walked in we knew people at 2 of the tables and that's always a sign that one's at home somewhere. Then the designers arrived and we joined them. Not only are they incredibly talented, but they are great dinner companions.

Friday - homeschooled in the morning and Jandad sat nearby and read their respective books. Had lunch, then headed to the hotel cafe for a delicious scoop of homemade ice cream ($3/ball, yikes). Off to airport to see Jandad off - they got to hang out at the new lounge for W guests, and give their input to the manager there (turn down the music and the scented candles, but otherwise it's great). Then saw off Jess the Puppy, who left with Stephanie for her new home in CT. (Note: Stephanie said Jess did great on the flights and her new owners, Gia & Lily, report that she has adjusted famously to her new family and they're thrilled with her). 1.5 hours of mindless TV for the kids as I was in desperate need of a nap, then Bill came home early (5:30) and we headed out to Friday Night Pizza at Lazy Jack's. Saw Emily, Daisy the Puppy's new owner, who reported that she is thriving and Emily loves her.

Saturday - I taught yoga at the hotel, on the sun deck behind the gym. Had 5 people (not bad, as I think there are 12 rooms rented out this weekend) and put them through my 45 minute routine of upper body & core strengthening poses, in the hot sun (island version of hot yoga). Today we're going to hang out at the hotel pool/beach like "real" guests since we're staying at the hotel tonight. I hope no one from my yoga class clobbers me, as even I feel the results of the high-plank-low-plank-high-plank segments of yesterday's class.

After yoga & then lunch, we went to Red Beach for a few hours and stayed till the sun went down, beautiful.

I finished the book "The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Society" this morning and it was just AWESOME. I had a hard time putting it down and am going to look up the author's children's books, I think Jackie will enjoy them.

Oh, and the local magazine, Vieques Events, is going to use 2 of my photos for their April issue - the cover! The smaller photo (pile of trash) was actually taken with my iPhone! And yes, that's Jackie & Willo in the photo.

Alright, must go pack now. Speaking of which, we still don't know when we're coming home but Bill's been muttering something about 2-3 weeks from now. I've already made the pediatrician's appointment for mid-April, which the kids need in order to be readmitted to their school.